Last updated: Friday, October 3, 2008 | 358 Views
by Joseph Matthews
The single most important skill every man should have is knowing how to approach women, because if you don’t know how to do this, you’re going to be at a serious disadvantage when it comes to meeting your dream girl…
You have to know how to approach a girl in the right manner if you want to have success with your pickup. The following are some proven tips I’d recommend you do to help you be successful in meeting women!
We’ve all had situations where we approached a girl with we thought was a smooth line, but she immediately rejected us before we could even open our mouths.
Know this - getting shot down has little to do with what you were going to say or what your intentions were. It’s all about how you go about actually approaching your target. It’s important to do this right the first time, because it’s hard to recover when you make a mistake right off the bat.
It is vitally important to make sure when approaching women, that you do so in a NON-TREATENING way and that you don’t telegraph your interest in the woman you’re approaching too early.
This is about by-passing a girl’s defenses and flying in “under the radar.”
You have to understand that most attractive women get hit on CONSTANTLY, so they’ve trained themselves to simply reject guys at the first sign they’re out to pick them up.
Most men don’t realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don’t want to deal with yet “another pick-up attempt.”
However, approaching women can not only be effective, but also fun and easy if you know the RIGHT WAY to do it!
So what’s the right way to approach a woman?
First of all - DO NOT HESITATE.
If you wait too long before approaching a girl, you’ll probably talk yourself out of doing it. Be focused, and like Nike - JUST DO IT.
Another tip - know what to say BEFORE you approach a woman! Meeting women becomes so much easier when you don’t have to waste time thinking of what to say to her to start a conversation.
So having a good pick-up line in your hip pocket to use in these situations is probably a good idea.
But don’t confuse the term “pick up line” with sleazy saying like “Nice shoes, let’s have sex!” The goal here is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?
A good pick up line is something that will start an innocent conversation with the girl you’re approaching. Examples of a good line would be to ask her opinion on something and then continue the conversation by asking more questions about her opinion.
Another thing - when you are approaching women, don’t charge in like you’re going to war. Approach them from an angle. This is less confrontational and will subconsciously put the woman you are engaging more at ease.
Remember: great pick ups can only happen when the girl is comfortable with you. That’s why it’s so important for YOU to feel comfortable when you’re talking to girls!
It’s natural to feel uncomfortable meeting attractive women, but remember - practice makes perfect! If you take the time to go out and practice meeting women, over time it will become easier and you’ll be more comfortable with doing it.
The sad fact is, you’re not going to get good at approaching women if all you do is sit around reading about it and studying it like a test. If you want to get good and have success, you actually have to go out and DO IT so you can build your experience level. (The good news - it gets easier the more you do it!)
Don’t be afraid of getting rejected when you do this. Look at it as a game and distance yourself from the outcome. You’re not trying to get a date or get her into bed, your only goal is to talk to her and strike up a conversation. If you do that, you win!
That’s all you need to do!
This is a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the easier it is. See how many you can talk to in a day and keep trying to beat your score.
Finally, use a “time constraint” when approaching women. This is as simple as telling her you’ve only got a minute to talk to her because you’ve got to get back to your friends or whatever you’re doing.
Effective use of time constraints will better engage the woman you’re talking to, because she won’t feel that she’s committing to a time-consuming endeavor. Instead, you’re only a momentary “distraction.” This helps eliminate any reason to reject you right off the bat.
If the initial approach goes well and the conversation continues, she will eventually forget you said you can only talk for a “minute” and you can talk as long as you want. The whole point is just to get your “foot in the door.”
In the world of dating, it all boils down to a numbers game. The more women you meet, the better your chances of finding your soul mate.
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ELOCHUKS
October 15, 2008
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November 29, 2008
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