Last updated: Thursday, November 13, 2008 | 889 Views
Let me ask you a question…
Have you ever met a girl you liked, and despite your best efforts, you got stuck in the “lets just be friends” category?
Well, there is a reason that happened!
Chances are it was because you did not know how to flirt properly with the woman.
You should know that flirting is essential in the attraction process. If you do not do it at all or do it wrong, you may blow your chances with a woman.
What is the importance of flirting?
This is simple flirting creates sexual tension.
No sexual tension equals no attraction, when there is not attraction, what does this make you?
You guessed it - A FRIEND!
You can increase the attraction a woman finds in you by knowing how to flirt with her.
And the secret is - flirting isn’t really as hard as many people think. In fact, it can be a lot of fun. The only time flirting doesn’t work is when it’s done WRONG.
The art of flirting with women is all about communicating your romantic interest in the woman rather than just letting the cat out of the bag.
Mixed signals are what this is.
Your actions are communicating one thing, but your words are saying something completely different.
Some of the most common mistakes men make while flirting with a woman include:
MISTAKE #1: They Are Way Too Obvious
Some men find it overwhelming when they feel attraction to a woman and then spit it all out at once letting her know how they feel. This type of presentation of information places the woman at a disadvantage of deciding what she feels for the man.
And if you haven’t laid the proper groundwork beforehand, chances are the girl is going to reject you.
MISTAKE #2: They Aren’t Obvious Enough!
If you make no effort to communicate your interest, yet think the woman will just know what you feel, when you do make a move it surprises the woman, because up until that point she has no idea of your interest.
MISTAKE #3: They Rely More On Words Than Actions
Although, flirting includes what you say and the way you say it, the most powerful performance comes from your non-verbal body language. The small simple things like raising an eyebrow, tilting your head to one side and that wicked little grin, that carries the most meaning in a seemingly innocent remark.
MISTAKE #4: Taking Things Too Seriously
Flirting, when done right, is light and fun. When guys try and make flirting more serious romantic gestures, the tension begins to break down.
You are doing something wrong when you or the woman is not having fun while you flirt.
I could list more mistakes like these, but I think you get the idea. So what’s the right way to start flirting?
Use as much innuendo as you can while you are flirting, however the secret is in keeping it subtle.
Let us say you are at a bar, for example and the woman you are with orders a drink and then asks if you would like one as well, you can jokingly say to her, You aren’t trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me, are you, while adding a nod and a wink.
Flirting communicates your attraction, although you never come right out and say it. Flirting is a lighthearted fun form of insinuation.
On the other hand, when a woman says something temptingly naughty to you, you might say to her, Stop trying to seduce me, you minx! You know I don’t do that on the first date.
Do you understand how all this works?
After you begin flirting more often, you will begin to be more apparent concerning your interests, without ever crossing that line.
You will notice how the attraction between you and the woman begins to build. Then one day you find that a harmless bit of flirting has turned into seduction.
The real fun begins at this point.
ELOCHUKS
